A Guide to Pony Play

There’s no such thing as being too old for pony play. 

What is Pony Play?

Remember how when you were a kid, you could ride some of the adults’ backs? Or maybe you had a big dog at home and you used to pretend they were a horsie?

If you miss that time in your life, do we have a surprise for you! 

Pony play is a form of BDSM where partners ride each other as horses or ponies. Sometimes both partners get to have a fun ride, in other cases only one partner is the designated rider, and the other one is forever a pony. 

It may sound kind of fun and innocent, but it can be very immersive, psychological, and aggressively sexy. It all depends on what you and the other person are looking for. 

Pony play tools

You don’t need any equipment to engage in pony play, but you can get extra tools if you feel like it. 

1. Faux tails can be attached to the belts or even butt plugs for a more authentic pony realness. 
2. Saddles and harnesses that are used for riding horses can work too, just make sure you find a good fit or it will either be too tight and cause pain or keep sliding off with you on it. 
3. Whips are another classic and super versatile tool for the bedroom. 
4. Bridles will add to the immersive experience and they will also be handy if you use the whips a bit too fondly, and the other person will make loud noises. 

Remember that the use of the tools is not mandatory. You can have fun, mix and match, and see what works best and brings you the most pleasure.

Why do People Enjoy Pony Play?

Pony play is as good as any other kinks and fetishes. Some people like and enjoy it because that’s what turns them on. We all have preferences, and sometimes a person’s preference is to be ridden or to ride someone. This is a fun sexual activity that adds playfulness to your intimacy, and it’s a good workout, too, by the way!

If we had to make a list, then here are the main reasons why people enjoy pony play:

• Escapism from everyday identities
• Playing with power dynamics 
• Bonding over new experiences 
• Physical pleasure from the activity 
• Personal sexual preferences 

Safety and Consent Tips

Pony play is not exactly a dangerous kink, but you can definitely traumatize yourself and your partner both physically and mentally. 

If you start practicing it, make sure that whoever the designated pony is, has the core and back strength to literally handle the game. We don’t want to injure anyone, right? Although, it would be quite funny to have to explain how you got injured to your doctor. 

Besides that, you need to ensure that everyone is feeling well and doing fine mentally before, during, and after the riding session. 

Here is what can help you achieve that:

• Establishing clear consent of all participants before anything starts.
• Updating each other on boundaries, limits, and preferences. 
• Talking to each other openly and encouraging honest feedback. 
• Finding a secure location in a private zone with no hazards around. 

After the pony play is done, have a quick catch-up and make sure everyone is doing okay. Both parties can be overwhelmed by the experience, but it can be especially hard for the pony. They can feel unsafe, weird, or even degraded by what just happened, and we need to make sure that a) it doesn’t happen; b) if it does happen, we do our best to turn things around and make them feel comfortable and validated. 

Getting Started with Pony Play

If you’re curious about pony play and other physically demanding kinks, it’s a good idea to make a few lifestyle changes and opt for more physical activity, muscle building, and a better nutrition plan. That way, you’ll be able to enjoy the activity more, regardless if you’re a pony or a rider. 

You don’t have to be ripped or anything like that, but having a bit more endurance and core strength will for sure make it easier for everyone. 

Next, do a quick research before you engage in pony playing, for example, read helpful articles, such as the beginner’s guide to pony play by Flure. If you can find someone who’s done it before, reach out to them and ask for tips, tricks, and insights. 

If you really want to emulate a horse or a pony, you can practice movements, such as trotting while keeping the posture for better resemblance. 

Start with small and gradual role-playing, have shorter riding sessions and slowly shift to longer, more intense nights. It’s always better to ease into the kink unless you’ve been dreaming about it for ages and really don’t mind anything. 

Ethical and social considerations 

Pony play is a niche sex play that not everyone is going to understand and accept, especially in a modern-day society where anything that’s not mainstream is stigmatized and criticized. If you’re going to give pony play a go, it’s best to go for a private location or a designated space where the community is understanding and supportive. 

If you ever come across someone who doesn’t fully understand pony play but doesn’t shy away from criticizing it, you can try and gently educate them, navigating the conversation in a more peaceful direction. At the same time, know that it’s not your job or mission to change the world’s perspective on pony playing and other kinks. You don’t have to go out of your way to explain it to someone. Save your energy.

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